"做人的道理。。。"

How in the world do I translate this to English? Something like, "How to be a person"...
Mother complains that the relatives don't have this rule in their lives, that they don't know how to be a person. Is it simply because they didn't listen (or rather follow) to her requests (a.k.a orders) or simply because she felt very betrayed?

She didn't show up at her own son's wedding. Now, is that how to be a person? Personally, I do understand her principles and her stand and her rights and all of that. She is hurt, she has given so much for this son. A little payback wouldn't hurt. There was payback... problem is payback wasn't what she wanted.

And trying to get everyone to her side became a goal more than anything. It's enough that she has proven her point but why drag other people with her? Validation maybe? Or what?

I grew up in a very demanding environment. A lot of people thought it was martial law in our home. All I can say? "Semi." I can say I grew up in a very different environment, that is for sure... My mother playing a very big role in my life ever since. My father passed away when I was quite young, 12.. so in the formative years of my life, it was my mom, always my mom. I have seen her hurt, seen her happy and all the others... but likewise, I have seen my siblings hurt, seen them happy...

I try to put myself in the middle... Taking a stand especially if they conflict isn't the easiest thing to do. One is your mother, the others, your siblings. You get me. I guess this is why I easily get frustrated in family fights... I am still idealist this way. I want everything peaceful. I want everything to be in harmony.

Dream on.

I just wish everything will turn out ok, eventually...

So tired.